Attachments

"Why do we get attached to others, Doctor Dorothy? I find myself getting attached to others so easily. And not just to people, but also to places and things. The feelings of attachment feel comfortable and dangerous at the same time. I love being attached, but I hate it at the same time. Sometimes I wish I were free of all these attachments. Sometimes I wish I could fly away from them all, like a bird. To be free of these attachments would be so liberating. Do you understand Doctor...??"

"I do, Ryan. Yes I do. We don't become attached because we're weak or desperate. We become attached because we're human. Every attachment you've ever formed, from the person who ghosted you after three amazing dates to the relationship you couldn't release even though deep down you knew it wasn't right, was your attempt at feeling safe, loved, and in control. But attachment isn't just about romantic relationships. It's also the job you cling to because you're afraid you won't find something better. It's the friendships you hold onto, despite feeling drained, because you're scared of loneliness. It's even the self image you grasp tightly to because you fear uncertainty or change. Attachment shows up wherever your subconscious seeks safety, familiarity, or validation, even if that familiarity is painful or limiting. At it's core, attachment is your nervous system, your body's internal alarm system that constantly scans for safety, searching for relief from uncertainty, loneliness, or low self worth. It's your subconscious mind anchoring itself to what it knows, creating an illusion of stability. But this illusion can come at a high cost, keeping you stuck, preventing true growth, and blocking genuine love and fulfillment. You must learn to recognize attachments based in fear of loss, and attachments based in safety and love."